News Flash! Not one of us is perfect. Why? Because it is not possible!
Admit it ladies! Some of us have a compelling need to be more than what we are capable of ever becoming while living in our human nature on this earth. This compulsion is the driving force behind perfectionism. It originates from a deep insecurity, or gnawing fear that being the women that God made us to be is somehow not good enough.
The roots of this longing for downright perfection comes from our lost remembrance of Paradise. Deep down inside of every Believer is an internal barometer about how things ought to be, a mysterious yearning for the perfection that only Heaven can bring. Something inside of us knows that no matter how good things are–they should be better. And one day they will be better, but not in this human vessel with this sinful human nature. Our knowing how it could be while having to live with how it actually is, can often cause an unhealthy tension in our psyche. There is not a day that goes by that I do not ask my Dear Abba Father to forgive me for being a disappointment to Him in one way or another. I find myself beating myself up for things like thinking earthly, negative thoughts or prejudging others, more than any one else ever could. I am so very thankful for the Grace He renews for me with every single day. As I grow closer to Him, I am quicker to hear the sweet whisperings of the Holy Spirit saying, “I forgive you my Anna, now forgive yourself and go on.” It’s like when Jesus told the Samaritan woman, “Go and sin no more.”
Instead of letting this drive for perfection beat us up as we constantly fail, we need to try to understand that inborn desire to be perfect. Then we can look forward with hopeful anticipation to an eternity of perfection with our LORD and Saviour in Paradise. This also helps us to let go of any demands we may put upon ourselves that our lives in this present world must satisfy all of our longings. That is never going to happen.
At the same time, the Lord does call every Believer to strive to live a life of wholeness and soundness of spirit. These are concepts that are often described as “perfect” in the New Testament i.e. Matthew 5: 48 “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.” The most prominent trait we are called to perfect in our lives is the ability to love – I John 4:17-19 “Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. We love him, because he first loved us.” As human beings with a sinful nature, it is not possible for us to be complete or perfect, as the result of our own striving. It is the manifestation of God’s work in us. – Hebrews 13:20, 21 “Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is well pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.”
So, while we cannot ever expect to be perfect in this life, we can work on doing our best to follow God’s teaching and guiding hand to be the best we can for Him. At the same time, we have eternity in Heaven to look forward to where there is no sin and we will never make mistakes or stumble. I don’t know about you, but that sure does put my mind at ease to know that God does not expect me to be perfect yet.