How much do we really appreciate our Pastors and their wives? They are team for the Lord in His church. We must take care not to take them for granted.
As far as I am concerned, every month should be appreciation month for them. Unfortunately there are always those few, who call themselves Born-Again Children of God, hindering and discouraging their Pastor and his Wife with fleshly behaviour. In their jealousy and desire to be ‘all important in the eyes of man’ I have witnessed them do such sin as totally ignoring their Pastor and his wife, and going over their heads to ‘do their own thing’ without seeking their Leaders’ counsel first. It makes my blood curdle when I hear them address our Pastor by his first name only, without showing due respect of using the title Pastor. Do they not understand the dissension and dis-respect they exhibit with this behaviour?! This is not only discouraging to our Leaders, but to the new members and baby Christians in God’s Church.
I was reminded in my time in God’s Word of how God looks at those who are supposedly mature Christians dis-respecting God’s chosen – Remember how God dealt with Moses and Miriam when they opposed Moses? God knows the heart and He sees everything.
1 And Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married: for he had married an Ethiopian woman.
2 And they said, Hath the LORD indeed spoken only by Moses? hath he not spoken also by us? And the LORD heard it.
3 (Now the man Moses was very meek, above all the men which were upon the face of the earth.)
4 And the LORD spake suddenly unto Moses, and unto Aaron, and unto Miriam, Come out ye three unto the tabernacle of the congregation. And they three came out.
5 And the LORD came down in the pillar of the cloud, and stood in the door of the tabernacle, and called Aaron and Miriam: and they both came forth.
6 And he said, Hear now my words: If there be a prophet among you, I the LORD will make myself known unto him in a vision, and will speak unto him in a dream.
7 My servant Moses is not so, who is faithful in all mine house.
8 With him will I speak mouth to mouth, even apparently, and not in dark speeches; and the similitude of the LORD shall he behold: wherefore then were ye not afraid to speak against my servant Moses?
9 And the anger of the LORD was kindled against them; and he departed.
10 And the cloud departed from off the tabernacle; and, behold, Miriam became leprous, white as snow: and Aaron looked upon Miriam, and, behold, she was leprous.
11 And Aaron said unto Moses, Alas, my lord, I beseech thee, lay not the sin upon us, wherein we have done foolishly, and wherein we have sinned.
12 Let her not be as one dead, of whom the flesh is half consumed when he cometh out of his mother’s womb.
13 And Moses cried unto the LORD, saying, Heal her now, O God, I beseech thee.
14 And the LORD said unto Moses, If her father had but spit in her face, should she not be ashamed seven days? let her be shut out from the camp seven days, and after that let her be received in again.
15 And Miriam was shut out from the camp seven days: and the people journeyed not till Miriam was brought in again.
16 And afterward the people removed from Hazeroth, and pitched in the wilderness of Paran.
Let us lift up God’s chosen leaders in prayer each day for His protection, guidance and direction. Here are a few encouraging things we can do for our Pastors and their wives:
–Most important is to pray for them and their family. D. L. Moody once said, ““Every movement of God can be traced back to a kneeling figure.”
–Send a note thanking your Pastor for how something in his God-led message spoke to you specifically and made a difference in your walk with God.
–Text or email your Pastor’s wife weekly, or whenever the Spirit lays her on your heart, and tell her something that she has done or said recently that was a blessing to you.
–Remember that your Pastor is a husband and father also. Encourage him in leading for his family, and care for them as you care him. And please, do not put unfair expectations on his children and treat them with the attitude that because they are Pastor’s children they should behave a certain way. That treatment will discourage them and cause rebellion in their hearts. I had several Pastor’s kids for friends when I was growing up, and I cannot count the times I heard them say, “People expect me to be perfect because my dad’s a Pastor,” and oh how I witnessed them rebel!
–Your Pastor’s wife needs you to be in your place if you have committed to ministry, by being faithful and responsible in your area of service in the church. When you miss a service, especially in small churches, the Pastor’s wife usually ends up doing what you committed to—such as helping in the nursery or teaching a Sunday School class. Mark 10:37-45 addresses those who begin in ministry because they want to look important, but they do not realize and consider the responsibility that comes with the commitment – “They said unto him, Grant unto us that we may sit, one on thy right hand, and the other on thy left hand, in thy glory. But Jesus said unto them, Ye know not what ye ask: can ye drink of the cup that I drink of? and be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with? And they said unto him, We can. And Jesus said unto them, Ye shall indeed drink of the cup that I drink of; and with the baptism that I am baptized withal shall ye be baptized: But to sit on my right hand and on my left hand is not mine to give; but it shall be given to them for whom it is prepared. And when the ten heard it, they began to be much displeased with James and John. But Jesus called them to him, and saith unto them, Ye know that they which are accounted to rule over the Gentiles exercise lordship over them; and their great ones exercise authority upon them. But so shall it not be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all. For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.” If you must be absent from your place, please try to give advance notice so that planning can be done.
—This is HUGE – Please do not abandon your Pastor when he has to confront wolves or serious sin issues in the church. One of the most deflating and lonely things for a pastor is when he takes a stand on a difficult issue (say, church discipline against a longstanding member) and those he counts on for support run the other way. If your pastor is taking heat for a just cause, don’t make him wonder about where you stand. Support him. Relieve some of the pressure on him. Defend him verbally when you hear gossip, and publicly in church meetings if you need to.
–Surprise your Pastor and his wife with their favorite things. And not just on special occasions. It can do so very much to uplift their spirits by giving a gift card to Pastor’s wife to her favorite spa or a card for their favorite place for dinner together, just because.