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God’s enemy and our enemy, if we are God’s children, seems to be accomplishing much in twisting God’s Word on the subject of marriage. And those who do not know God and who He truly is, nor do they know His true Word, are buying it lock, stock, and barrel. Today we look at what His plan is and always has been, and what it will always be for marriage. Unlike the world, God never changes.

God’s marriage plan is first made know in Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Unfortunately, some families choose to forget that scripture, especially when it concerns a brother or son. This is sin and makes the poor wife’s life miserable. These deceived ones need to realize that he will always be their brother/son, but now his life is with his wife. They are one and “no one is to come between them.”)

God’s marriage plan is repeated in Matthew 9:4-6 “And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” And Ephesians 5:31 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.” Marriage was perfect in its establishment: one man and one woman in a lifetime commitment.

It was never God’s intention for man to be alone – Genesis 2:18 “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” God used one of Adam’s own ribs to craft this woman for him – Genesis 2:23 “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Woman was taken out of the man, and then she was presented to the man so that she could complete the man.

God created the man and the woman in His own image – Genesis 1:26 “And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.” They were created with emotional and physical needs that only another human being could meet – Genesis 2:18.

There were no parents in the Garden of Eden, but God’s formula for oneness in marriage extended far into the future. The life-mates are to “leave” their parents and “cleave” to each other in order to become one – Genesis 2:24. They are to be willing to lay aside all that pertains to their old loyalties and lifestyles of separate goals and plans and be joined to one another. This clinging refers to a strong, enduring bond–making one unit bound together by unconditional commitment, love, and acceptance–resulting in a combined unit much stronger than either individual had been separately – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” (Man and woman and God)

Marriage between one man and one woman is a spiritual miracle because the marriage relationship pictures the union of Christ and His bride, the church – Ephesians 5:22-29 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:”

So we see that God considers the marriage relationship a Holy relationship, which brings to question those who wish to convince us that marriage should also include Sodomites marrying Sodomites. Yes, I said Sodomites. I know the politically correct would have us refer to them as gays or homosexuals. Those words are not used in God’s Word to describe men with men and women with women. The ruler of this world has chosen those words to make those who sin the sin of sodomy feel more comfortable in their sin. Jude 7: “Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.”

This is what God truly thinks of the sin of sodomites:

Leviticus 18:22 “Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.”

Leviticus 20:13 “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.”

Romans 1:24-28 “Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;”

I would say that is very clear and concise, and not open for human fleshly debate. It is an abomination – Strong’s Concordance – Hebrew: toebah, to-ay-baw’ – disgusting, abhorrence, loathsome, detestable. When used with reference to God, this word describes people, things, acts, relationships, and characteristics that are detestable to Him because they are contrary to His nature. Does God love Sodomites? Of course He does. Just as He loves someone who commits any sin, BUT he hates their sin. It is an abomination to Him because He is Holy. He would that we would repent or turn from our sin, no matter what it is, and turn to a right relationship with Him. For, if we continue to live in our sin, we break fellowship with our loving Father. To me, the thought of breaking fellowship with God is heartbreaking. I, too, had done so in my past when I chose to go the way of this world and live in sin, and I pray I never let that happen again.

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Posted by on August 8, 2017 in God's Truth

 

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The Doctrine of Salvation – Part 11

VIII. Reconciliation

A. Reconciliation means “to make friends again of two people who had become enemies.” It is similar to propitiation. For instance, in marriage: “But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.” (I Corinthians 7:11)

B. Reconciliation is based upon the finished work of Jesus Christ.

2 Corinthians 5:18-20 “And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation. Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ’s stead, be ye reconciled to God.”

Colossians 1:21-22 “And you, that were sometime alienated and enemies in your mind by wicked works, yet now hath he reconciled In the body of his flesh through death, to present you holy and unblameable and unreproveable in his sight:”

Hebrews 2:17 “Wherefore in all things it behoved him to be made like unto his brethren, that he might be a merciful and faithful high priest in things pertaining to God, to make reconciliation for the sins of the people.”

Colossians 1:20 “And, having made peace through the blood of his cross, by him to reconcile all things unto himself; by him, I say, whether they be things in earth, or things in heaven.”

 
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Posted by on May 5, 2014 in God's Love, God's Truth

 

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Communication-Key to Godly/Happy Marriage

In speaking with other women, I must agree that the greatest challenge to accomplishing a happy marriage is how husbands and wives communicate, or do not communicate with each other. My church employs an evangelist couple who are head of “Old Paths” Baptist Ministry. I find their “Communication in Marriage” to be very helpful as a reminder for myself, and I pray that it will be of great value to others:

Their First Quarrel, a 1914 print by Charles D...

“Communication in Marriage”

The most common problem in marriage seems to be the communication problem. God anticipated this and gave us many scriptures to help us foresee and overcome this problem. Here are just a few:

James 3:8-10: “But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.”

Proverbs 18:21: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

Proverbs 25:11: “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”

Job 19:1-2: “Then Job answered and said, How long will ye vex my soul, and break me in pieces with words?

I Peter 3:10: “For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:”

Communication in marriage is more than simply talking to one another in the marriage context about the everyday problems that are bound to occur. Communication is the transmission and receiving of information, knowledge, facts, etc., etc. Mr. Webster in his 1828 Dictionary defines communication as follows:

COMMUNICATION, n.
1. The act of imparting, conferring, or delivering, from one to another; as the
communication of knowledge, opinions or facts.
2. Intercourse by words, letters or messages; interchange of thoughts or opinions, by conference or other means. Abner had communication with the elders of Israel, saying, Ye sought for David in times past to be king over you. 2 Samuel 3. Let your communication be, yea, yea; nay, nay. Matthew 5. In 1 Corinthians 15:33, Evil communications corrupt good manners, the word may signify conversation, colloquial discourses, or customary association and familiarity.
3. Intercourse; interchange of knowledge; correspondence; good understanding between men. Secrets may be carried so far as to stop the
communication necessary among all who have the management of affairs.

The bold and underlined thoughts above are a couple of ideas that I consider to be very important in establishing a good marriage relationship. I believe that the “interchange of thoughts or opinions” and the “good understanding between men” (or the husband and wife) are two key ingredients of a successful and happy marriage.

In Genesis God gives us some very practical instruction in the marriage context.

Genesis 2:24-25: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed”

Here are some suggestions based upon scriptural guidelines that will help you to communicate well in your marriage.

Proverbs 18:13: “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.”

Listen to what your spouse has to say and don’t be in a hurry to spout your own opinion. Listening is a habit we should all cultivate.

Proverbs 15:23, 28: “A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it! And The heart of the
righteous studieth to answer: …

Proverbs 21:23: “Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.”

Proverbs 29:20: “Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him.

These thoughts follow the first very closely. Learn to think first and be slow to speak.

Colossians 3:9: “Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;”

Ephesians 4:15, 25: “But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:” Verse 25: “Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbor: for we are members one of another.”

Be truthful in love. Be very careful not to exaggerate in your conversations.

Proverbs 15:1: “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”

Ephesians 4:31: “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put awayfrom you, with all malice:
Anger, quarrelling, manipulative behavior will certainly cause many problems. Proverbs 25:11

James 5:16: “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”

Be ready to admit your error and ask for forgiveness. If you are on the receiving end, make sure that you accept the confession of wrong. Wipe the slate clean and go on. To forgive and forget is certainly a Godly trait that we should emulate in our lives.

Ephesians 4:32: “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”

1 Thessalonians 5:11: “Wherefore comfort yourselves together,and edify one another, even as also ye do.”

Galatians 6:1: “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering
thyself, lest thou also be tempted.”

Always be ready to build each other up. Don’t be a blame shifter (Genesis 2). Be a restorer not a criticizer. Don’t be a nagger. If you are criticized or blamed don’t react and respond in the same manner. Romans 12:17,21.

Ephesians 4:1-3: “I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called, With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”

Philippians 2:1-4: “If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies, Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.”

Understand that not everyone sees things as you do, and each person should “make allowances for differences.” Think about the other person and be genuinely interested in them and their opinions.

If you would like more information on this subject contact:
“OLD PATHS” BAPTIST MINISTRY
1482 N. Ramah Dr., Pueblo West, CO 81007
Dr. Robert E. Bliss, Director
(719) 248-9036
A ministry out of:
LIGHTHOUSE BAPTIST CHURCH
4280 Hopeful Dr., Colorado Springs, CO 80917
Dr. James Carroll, Pastor
(719) 444-8502

 
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Posted by on November 7, 2011 in Godly Women

 

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Becoming a Godly Woman Part 3

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English: Wine grapes. Español: Uvas de vino rojo. Русский: Грозди винограда. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Titus 2:3 “The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;”

Today’s topic will cover “not given to much wine”. I think that is pretty straightforward in that we are not to be drunk with wine. I would go so far as to say that it would be unwise and a very bad example to consume alcohol at all. Would those looking to us for guidance take us seriously if they witnessed us in a drunken state? Of course not. In fact it would be more likely that we would cause some to stumble in their walk.

I find that God’s word, as always, says it best:

Proverbs 20:1 “Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.”

Proverbs 21:17 “He that loveth pleasure shall be a poor man: he that loveth wine and oil shall not be rich.

Proverbs 23: 29-32 “29. Who hath woe? who hath sorrow? who hath contentions? who hath babbling? who hath wounds without cause? who hath redness of eyes?”

“30. They that tarry long at the wine; they that go to seek mixed wine. 31. Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth his colour in the cup, when it moveth itself aright. 32. At the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder.”

Proverbs 31:4-6 was written as wise advice to a king, but I feel that it is also fitting for those of us who wish to become a Godly example to others:

“4. It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink:
5. Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.
6. Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.”

Though alcohol may be used to sooth and comfort, it is only temporary, and we must be aware of the dangers it imposes on its victims. It dulls our senses, limits our judgment, hinders our self-control, and destroys our bodies and minds. Very many families and marriages are destroyed by it as well. It is not a solution to any problem. Instead of losing ourselves in alcohol; why not find ourselves in God?

 
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Posted by on May 3, 2011 in Godly Women

 

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Creation of the First Woman

Adam and Eve

Adam and Eve (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

The first time the word woman appears in the Bible is when God created Eve from Adam’s rib or side. The Hebrew word for this usage of woman is nashiym (naw-sheem), “because she was taken out of man” (Genesis 2:23). The stress is on identification of womanhood.

God’s word tells us that he created the earth and the heavens and everything in them in seven days. It was on the 6th day that he created mankind. Genesis 1:26, 27 – “And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the fowl of the air and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. 27. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”

We see that God made both man and woman in his image. One was not any more the image of God than the other. Neither sex was of more or lesser value to God. He fashioned and prepared us for various tasks, but his purpose was for us to live with the same intent: to honor God. Though one of us is not superior to the other, each of our genders has its own exclusive privileges.

In Genesis 2:18 God saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone; he was incomplete. “I will make him an help meet for him.” So God formed all of the beasts of the field and the birds in the air and gave them to Adam to see what names he would give them. But there was no help meet found for him among all of those.

God put Adam into a deep sleep and took one of his ribs and made a woman and brought her to him. The Hebrew word for rib used here is the feminine tsalah (tsal-aw). Literally it means a rib, as curved, of the body; or figuratively, a side or chamber of a person. Wow! It makes me think of woman actually being taken out of a chamber in man’s side. That helps me to understand why it is a God-given instinct for a man to take his woman under his wing to care for and protect her. It also explains why we women have a deep desire for our knight in shining armor to ride in, whisk us off our feet and devote his life to us. I believe that deep down inside, every woman wants her husband to step up and be the Godly leader that God created him to be. I know that I find that very comforting.

God could have made Eve from dust as he did Adam, but he chose to create her from the man’s flesh and bone. This symbolizes how a man’s and a woman’s hearts and lives are mysteriously joined together in marriage. We can see throughout God’s word that he takes this union very seriously.

A good question to ask ourselves before marrying is : “Are we willing to keep the commitment which makes the two of us one? The ultimate goal in marriage is more than friendship; it is oneness.

Side Note: God did not create man out of man nor woman out of woman that they would be godly joined in union as one. His word clearly states that he made woman from the side of man. The natural union of man and woman in marriage is a sacred blessing from God.

Homosexuality: to “change” or “leave the natural use of” sex

For those who live a homosexual lifestyle and try to justify it by pointing to God’s love and grace, I say, examine yourselves as to whether you are truly a born-again child of God, or ask yourselves if you are being led astray by Satan’s deceivers. Some are choosing to be deceived by so-called preachers (some who are homosexuals themselves) who teach that they cannot help being the way they are. Many believe and teach that their desires are normal and that they have a right to express them. God does not encourage us to fulfill all of our desires, as they are not all good desires. We must restrain those desires that violate his laws. Satan’s liars do not set the standard for God’s Law, and they will answer to God for it.

Yes, God does love the sinner, but he does hate the sin. He is willing to receive anyone who comes to him in faith, and as Christians, we should always love and accept others, but not their sin. We are not to stand in judgment, but to use good judgment when it comes to tolerating what God looks upon as sin.

Homosexuality is a sin in God’s eyes. Leviticus 18:22 “Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is an abomination.” The Hebrew word here for abomination as referenced to God (because this act is an abomination in God’s eyes) is toebah (to-ay-baw) – and it describes people, things, acts, relationships, and characteristics that are detestable to Him because they are contrary to His nature.

Can a saved person live the life of a homosexual? I have pondered that question much because I know and love some who live that lifestyle and say that they are saved. Only God knows that for sure. Saved people are sinners and we will be until we be with our Lord. We are to live day by day in God’s grace, repenting for sins that our natural flesh is tempted to. Repenting means turning away from.

I would venture to say that if they are saved, they are ignoring the roots of whatever issues they have in their pasts that may have led them to this lifestyle. I would also submit, that if they were totally honest with themselves, they would admit that they do not have God’s peace that passes understanding in their spirits.

To those who have homosexual desires: You can and must resist acting upon them. As with temptation to any sin, you must consciously stay away from places and behaviors that you know will spark these temptations. Do not underestimate Satan’s power and goal to lead you astray. Also, I beg you to consider the risk you take for serious harm if you keep giving in to these temptations.

If you are saved and living a homosexual lifestyle: Do not forget that God will forgive sexual sins the same as he forgives other sins. The key is to completely surrender yourselves to the grace and mercy of God, and ask him to show you the way out of sin and into the light of his liberty and love. Immerse yourselves in prayer, Bible study, and the loving support of Christians in a Bible-believing church that does not water down God’s word to make you feel better about your sin. Those actions will help you to gain the strength that you need to resist those powerful temptations. You may even need to seek the help of a trustworthy and professional true, Christian counselor. Christian meaning living a Christ-filled, Christ-like lifestyle.

 
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Posted by on February 27, 2011 in God's Love

 

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